RESISTANCE

By Louise Parente, “Paralyze resistance with persistence” – Woody Hayes

Today I sat down with the goal to write.  My desire to write another book waxes and wanes.  I did the same thing two of the previous three days.  I eventually break through my resistance, but:

Why do I resist, and what is resistance.  What do you think about it?

I have written about imagery, procrastination, fear, self-sabotage, etc.  Where does resistance fit in?

Resistance prevents the creation of the image.  It is negative, internally, and externally, it is deceptive, it corrupts and is fueled by self-sabotage and isolation.  Recently I read that procrastination is manifested in resistance, perhaps because we sometimes rationalize it.  Resistance is a self-abusive behavior.

I see it as an umbrella that is kept open by negativity, self-deception, self-sabotage, procrastination and more; it prevents growth.  It may feel like protection which it is at times, but one that has multiple limitations.

I am quite aware of how I feel about it.  It makes me unhappy and negative; it is toxic and can elicit fear.  Resistance feeds on fear and the biggest fear is that it will succeed.  Primarily resistance has the potential to rob me of a piece of life.  It has been described as something we cannot, touch or hear, it leads to distraction. 

OK, my understanding of resistance is much clearer, but what can I do about it?

1. I can acknowledge its existence and its impact on me.  For me, this step is the main one in the process of making change.
2. I must clarify what my goal is.  Do I and What, do I want to write?  I need to “brainstorm” what the possibilities are to achieve that.
3. I need to put things in order, internally and externally.  For me, I need my writing materials, notebooks, computer, pens and pencils, reference books and articles, and location clearly defined. 

• I need to fuel my inspiration.  For me, it is music that represents the essence of positivity and creativity that harmonizes my prayer and belief system.

• I know that I must ask for help when I need it.  If I don’t this is a form of resistance.

• I have learned that I must be patient, recognize my limitations and learn from criticism.

• I need to make peace with my resistance, follow my life journey and create what I can.  I must acknowledge this and give myself credit for it.

The above points will hopefully serve as a reminder of the impact of resistance and the need to believe in your creativity and wisdom. Good Luck!

Thank you,

lparentephd@yahoo.com