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“Thoughts for a Lifetime” – Relationships
“Thoughts of a Lifetime” – Relationships
“My best friend is the one who brings out the best in me.” Henry Ford
“No person is your friend who demands your silence or denies your right to grow.” Alice Walker
Recently four very special friends came to visit. During that time, we shared memories and experiences of the past. It occurred to me that this visit would also become a memory, one of joy. Yes, this friendship is an example of a healthy, long-lasting one.
In my book, I ask the readers to become more aware of their relationship with food. Although not noted, it could be a relationship with drugs, alcohol, compulsive spending, gambling, etc. Some relationships are friendly, positive or fearful, painful, abusive, etc., the list can be multiplied. There are times we want to change them to healthy ones, yet the attachment is one that renders us helpless. Perhaps we become comfortable with the discomfort experienced. But is that truly what is needed and desired?
If we looked deeper, along with a dysfunctional attachment that requires change, comes a fearful and painful separation, yet one that can lead to freedom. Along with this separation, albeit one you may want and “crave”, is the need to understand the feelings and thoughts that accompany it, this is vital. Here again, the subject of loss and its multiple implications surface.
When you decide to make a change, action is the missing link. If you wish to make this change, I ask you to honestly explore the following questions:
“Are you ready and willing to understand and change your relationship with food”?
“Are you ready to focus on the feelings of loss that will surface”?
“Are you willing to grieve that which surfaces as you go forward”?
Only YOU can decide! – GOOD LUCK!
(Excerpts from Parting Is Such Sweet Sorrow. Saying Goodbye to an Eating Problem. How to change your relationship with food.)
